Is it easy for you to ask for help from your spouse? For many couples both work full time jobs , however , a person who usually ends up doing most of the housework . This may be because the person wants things a certain way , or need to feel a sense of being in control of how the home is run. Although , unless that person is Superman or Superwoman , can result in a lot of stress , resentment and general sadness.
Sounds familiar?
Surrender control during the holidaysIf you are the type of person who likes things a certain way , can be annoying to remember to ask your spouse to give you a helping hand in the house during this time of year ... but something has to give . Maybe you're planning a big party for all your friends and family, or perhaps you still cook multiple batches of cookies every year for their loved ones. As hard as it may be for you to give up control of the management of the multitude of tasks on your holiday list of things to do, even more " control freak " can become overwhelmed by everything that is on sale this time of year . There is hope, however, and you do not experience burnout ... long as you are willing to give up some control . All you need to do is ask for help.
Imagine the resultJust for a moment , imagine what the outcome might be if you ask for help from your spouse that you make your holiday plans . Most likely he or she is not even getting overwhelmed each year , and probably plan to stay in their way is the best way to help .
When working together to make a party happen , when your spouse or places to make your holiday a little easier for you , there is a sense of teamwork there. Your relationship will inevitably closer since worked together . Ladies, your husbands love it when you come to them with a problem and have the means to help correct .
Men , your wives have a deep desire to help you with whatever you might be preparing for the holidays, and feel a great sense of purpose to be the ones you chose to ask for help.
Put "Merry Christmas " Back Into Your ChristmasMany couples have built their relations on the false premise that should take care of everything and everyone in your home, or otherwise not function correctly. If this thinking is done during the holidays, it does not cause conflict and resentment. Do not try to do everything on your own when not needed .
This year , why not put the "Merry Christmas" back in your Christmas season by giving yourself permission to put some of this responsibility to your husband or wife? Cut yourself some slack this way and you will see that it will not be just you and your partner closer, but it gives you pause , you really need to relax a bit and enjoy the season more than ever .
Sounds familiar?
Surrender control during the holidaysIf you are the type of person who likes things a certain way , can be annoying to remember to ask your spouse to give you a helping hand in the house during this time of year ... but something has to give . Maybe you're planning a big party for all your friends and family, or perhaps you still cook multiple batches of cookies every year for their loved ones. As hard as it may be for you to give up control of the management of the multitude of tasks on your holiday list of things to do, even more " control freak " can become overwhelmed by everything that is on sale this time of year . There is hope, however, and you do not experience burnout ... long as you are willing to give up some control . All you need to do is ask for help.
Imagine the resultJust for a moment , imagine what the outcome might be if you ask for help from your spouse that you make your holiday plans . Most likely he or she is not even getting overwhelmed each year , and probably plan to stay in their way is the best way to help .
When working together to make a party happen , when your spouse or places to make your holiday a little easier for you , there is a sense of teamwork there. Your relationship will inevitably closer since worked together . Ladies, your husbands love it when you come to them with a problem and have the means to help correct .
Men , your wives have a deep desire to help you with whatever you might be preparing for the holidays, and feel a great sense of purpose to be the ones you chose to ask for help.
Put "Merry Christmas " Back Into Your ChristmasMany couples have built their relations on the false premise that should take care of everything and everyone in your home, or otherwise not function correctly. If this thinking is done during the holidays, it does not cause conflict and resentment. Do not try to do everything on your own when not needed .
This year , why not put the "Merry Christmas" back in your Christmas season by giving yourself permission to put some of this responsibility to your husband or wife? Cut yourself some slack this way and you will see that it will not be just you and your partner closer, but it gives you pause , you really need to relax a bit and enjoy the season more than ever .
