Breaking up with your partner who you loved and thought loved you, is never an easy deal. After all, you were with that person for a reason. It really doesn't matter why you broke up because you still have to take the same steps to get moving forward in your life. So many people get stuck in the sadness of a breakup and they never really move forward. Worse yet, they might jump back into another relationship too soon, carrying all of their previous relationship baggage with them.
Let's talk about three tips you can use to get you moving again in your life, but in a healthy manner.
The first thing you have to do is allow yourself to grieve the loss. Don't try to pretend it didn't happen or that you're not sad. It is completely normal to be sad and grief-stricken over the breakup of your relationship. Your life is going to change.
Every day will be different to the past. This is to be expected, and you need to work through the grief in order to get to the other side. One important step to take is to have no contact with your ex partner for at least 60 days - no texting, no email, no talking, no FB checking - no anything. This will help you get over the breakup much more quickly.
Another tip would be to find a new hobby or pastime you can start to immerse yourself in. Use it as a way of diverting your attention and making new friends. This is not to say you shouldn't deal with the sadness, but you need to start to replace the sadness with happier events. Perhaps you've always been interested in taking dance classes or you like to cook. Get involved in something totally new that is a little bit outside of your comfort zone.
Another important part of getting over a breakup is giving yourself some time alone. This means you shouldn't run out and immediately get into another relationship with someone else. If you do, any new relationship is really doomed to fail because you're still carrying so much of the emotional baggage with you from your previous breakup. Give yourself time to know what it feels like to be on your own so you can clear you head, and gain some strength and independence within yourself. And also to think about the traits you are looking for in a partner.
Pretty much everyone on the planet has experienced at least one breakup in their life. It's not easy for anyone, but people overcome the sadness of a breakup every single day. You have to give yourself time and allow yourself to feel those waves of despair. Know they will pass and you will get to the other side and be happy again.
This is a good time to learn about yourself... what makes you who you are? What are your values? Were destructive emotions at the heart of the problems you experienced with your relationship? These are some of the questions you need to answer and work on before getting into a new relationship.
Let's talk about three tips you can use to get you moving again in your life, but in a healthy manner.
The first thing you have to do is allow yourself to grieve the loss. Don't try to pretend it didn't happen or that you're not sad. It is completely normal to be sad and grief-stricken over the breakup of your relationship. Your life is going to change.
Every day will be different to the past. This is to be expected, and you need to work through the grief in order to get to the other side. One important step to take is to have no contact with your ex partner for at least 60 days - no texting, no email, no talking, no FB checking - no anything. This will help you get over the breakup much more quickly.
Another tip would be to find a new hobby or pastime you can start to immerse yourself in. Use it as a way of diverting your attention and making new friends. This is not to say you shouldn't deal with the sadness, but you need to start to replace the sadness with happier events. Perhaps you've always been interested in taking dance classes or you like to cook. Get involved in something totally new that is a little bit outside of your comfort zone.
Another important part of getting over a breakup is giving yourself some time alone. This means you shouldn't run out and immediately get into another relationship with someone else. If you do, any new relationship is really doomed to fail because you're still carrying so much of the emotional baggage with you from your previous breakup. Give yourself time to know what it feels like to be on your own so you can clear you head, and gain some strength and independence within yourself. And also to think about the traits you are looking for in a partner.
Pretty much everyone on the planet has experienced at least one breakup in their life. It's not easy for anyone, but people overcome the sadness of a breakup every single day. You have to give yourself time and allow yourself to feel those waves of despair. Know they will pass and you will get to the other side and be happy again.
This is a good time to learn about yourself... what makes you who you are? What are your values? Were destructive emotions at the heart of the problems you experienced with your relationship? These are some of the questions you need to answer and work on before getting into a new relationship.
