Did you know that no matter how bad or unhealthy of a background you came from, it doesn't mean that you are stuck there and that things can't get better. There are some things you will likely need to do as a lifestyle modification for the better. We can make choices to be more physically fit or how we eat to modify a healthier life style, the same can be done for relational choices.
There are key points you can look for to know you are getting healthier if you are already on that journey.
1. You take it slow in the beginning phases of a relationship. This means you aren't getting physically involved when you barely know the person you began the relationship with. You aren't talking about getting married, and how many kids you want on date 2. You don't bring up heavily emotionally charged content so early on. While it's normal to want to be with this person more, you recognize that a healthy relationship takes time to develop and unfold slowly.
2. Your identity doesn't become enmeshed and entangled with each other. You still have your sense of identity. It didn't blur into your relationship with your significant other. It also means you have healthy time apart as well as intentional times together. It doesn't mean that it's the end of the relationship if your new sweetheart wants some space. Give him or her some time to miss you, and for them to know you are secure also to stand on your two feet as well as with them. This is one of the keys for a healthy relationship.
3. You take the time to know your values. Everyone has a sense of value system whether they recognize it as that or not. Some are comprisable, and some are not. Recognize what are not, and when you meet someone and are getting to know them, these are the questions to find out before getting deeply emotionally involved. To ignore what's important to you or what you cannot compromise will only be a source of stress and arguments for the relationship down the road.
4. You've recognized toxic or unhealthy behaviors early on, and had the strength to choose not to get involved. This is really a big key to knowing you are much healthier, if you used to attract unhealthy individuals. That doesn't mean those unhealthy individuals don't suddenly stop being attracted to you, it's that you've recognized the unhealthy behaviors, and no longer want to invite toxic into your life. "Thank you, but no."
5. You are able to alter your self-narrative in your mind about yourself. Being unattached doesn't mean you're undesirable or unlovely. You're now able to recognize that you are responsible for choosing what kind of relationships you will allow in your life. Often, it may mean saying no to a lot of unhealthy individuals, so you will be available when the right ones come across your path.
Just like when a person is losing weight, when you look at the number of pounds less on the scale, it can be a very big encouragement. It's no different with relationships, especially if you've come from a dysfunctional background. You wonder how you know you are really ready for a relationship, and how you are getting healthier. The points listed above are just some of the characteristics that reflect healthier relationships.
Perhaps you've gotten out of relationships that have deeply hurt you, and it's been time to keep growing emotionally and how you relate to others. Meaningful relationships are important to emotional health.
There are key points you can look for to know you are getting healthier if you are already on that journey.
1. You take it slow in the beginning phases of a relationship. This means you aren't getting physically involved when you barely know the person you began the relationship with. You aren't talking about getting married, and how many kids you want on date 2. You don't bring up heavily emotionally charged content so early on. While it's normal to want to be with this person more, you recognize that a healthy relationship takes time to develop and unfold slowly.
2. Your identity doesn't become enmeshed and entangled with each other. You still have your sense of identity. It didn't blur into your relationship with your significant other. It also means you have healthy time apart as well as intentional times together. It doesn't mean that it's the end of the relationship if your new sweetheart wants some space. Give him or her some time to miss you, and for them to know you are secure also to stand on your two feet as well as with them. This is one of the keys for a healthy relationship.
3. You take the time to know your values. Everyone has a sense of value system whether they recognize it as that or not. Some are comprisable, and some are not. Recognize what are not, and when you meet someone and are getting to know them, these are the questions to find out before getting deeply emotionally involved. To ignore what's important to you or what you cannot compromise will only be a source of stress and arguments for the relationship down the road.
4. You've recognized toxic or unhealthy behaviors early on, and had the strength to choose not to get involved. This is really a big key to knowing you are much healthier, if you used to attract unhealthy individuals. That doesn't mean those unhealthy individuals don't suddenly stop being attracted to you, it's that you've recognized the unhealthy behaviors, and no longer want to invite toxic into your life. "Thank you, but no."
5. You are able to alter your self-narrative in your mind about yourself. Being unattached doesn't mean you're undesirable or unlovely. You're now able to recognize that you are responsible for choosing what kind of relationships you will allow in your life. Often, it may mean saying no to a lot of unhealthy individuals, so you will be available when the right ones come across your path.
Just like when a person is losing weight, when you look at the number of pounds less on the scale, it can be a very big encouragement. It's no different with relationships, especially if you've come from a dysfunctional background. You wonder how you know you are really ready for a relationship, and how you are getting healthier. The points listed above are just some of the characteristics that reflect healthier relationships.
Perhaps you've gotten out of relationships that have deeply hurt you, and it's been time to keep growing emotionally and how you relate to others. Meaningful relationships are important to emotional health.
