Most of us can think of couples who have been married for 30 , 40, 50 years or older and who seem so happy in each other's company as they were when they met . As a relationship counselor rather unfortunately, I see couples like this on a daily basis. So what magic ingredient found these happy couples?
First, they seem to have a real taste of each other from the beginning. In other words, they are not only physically attracted or in love, but there was a real connection . As the relationship progressed, they worked and developed this regard. It seems that there are at least five key aspects of this :
A . They are aware of each other's needs and changing aspirations. We all change over time and the most successful couples seem to be aware of how your partner has changed and not just assume they are the same as when they met . They take the time to understand your partner today and their hopes and plans for the future .
Two . Constantly find new interests. Couples will be closer if they have common interests. This is even stronger if they can find new common interests over the years . Be taken in the same nest deep pool is not a recipe for a happy relationship. Whether it's a new hobby or a new common dream of a business, it will help you keep a fresh, young and healthy relationship couple.
Three . They know how to make. Even the happiest couples will discuss . But in a strong relationship , success is not defined by winning an argument or getting your own way , but you know how completely and honestly discuss the differences . If your partner is constantly down when you disagree and at the end of a discussion, do not feel stronger and more connected than you did before you start, the relationship deteriorates gradually . To have a successful relationship argue how they may disagree , but eventually better understanding and respect for differences.
April. They accept the reality of aging . We all get older and a couple in a strong relationship to ensure that they are for each other. They take care of each other, as they deal with the physical challenges of aging and feelings of mortality. They share their thoughts on what to expect and take comfort in knowing that your partner will be there for them no matter what.
May They are physically connected . You're never too old to hold hands , hug or kiss or have sex and couples who do throughout their relationship are more likely to stay connected. Having a physical relationship and long sensual whole life seems to be a key element for successful long term relationship .
These ingredients are not mystical , but they are something we can all be achieved with a little effort and commitment. The reward of having a combination of support and love throughout his life must make this effort worthwhile. No matter how long you've been together , it is not too late to add these ingredients to their relationship if they are missing .
First, they seem to have a real taste of each other from the beginning. In other words, they are not only physically attracted or in love, but there was a real connection . As the relationship progressed, they worked and developed this regard. It seems that there are at least five key aspects of this :
A . They are aware of each other's needs and changing aspirations. We all change over time and the most successful couples seem to be aware of how your partner has changed and not just assume they are the same as when they met . They take the time to understand your partner today and their hopes and plans for the future .
Two . Constantly find new interests. Couples will be closer if they have common interests. This is even stronger if they can find new common interests over the years . Be taken in the same nest deep pool is not a recipe for a happy relationship. Whether it's a new hobby or a new common dream of a business, it will help you keep a fresh, young and healthy relationship couple.
Three . They know how to make. Even the happiest couples will discuss . But in a strong relationship , success is not defined by winning an argument or getting your own way , but you know how completely and honestly discuss the differences . If your partner is constantly down when you disagree and at the end of a discussion, do not feel stronger and more connected than you did before you start, the relationship deteriorates gradually . To have a successful relationship argue how they may disagree , but eventually better understanding and respect for differences.
April. They accept the reality of aging . We all get older and a couple in a strong relationship to ensure that they are for each other. They take care of each other, as they deal with the physical challenges of aging and feelings of mortality. They share their thoughts on what to expect and take comfort in knowing that your partner will be there for them no matter what.
May They are physically connected . You're never too old to hold hands , hug or kiss or have sex and couples who do throughout their relationship are more likely to stay connected. Having a physical relationship and long sensual whole life seems to be a key element for successful long term relationship .
These ingredients are not mystical , but they are something we can all be achieved with a little effort and commitment. The reward of having a combination of support and love throughout his life must make this effort worthwhile. No matter how long you've been together , it is not too late to add these ingredients to their relationship if they are missing .
