So you've found a guy who you think the world of, and you realize that you are quickly falling for him hard. The only problem is that you're not so sure that the feelings are mutual - and you'd do just about anything to make sure that they are.
So, do you shower him with gifts, call him constantly, do nothing but praise him and offer to cook and clean and do his laundry for him, all in a big play to make yourself indispensable? Only if the role you're looking for is "Mom".
Guys don't care for girls that chase after them - in fact, if you're chasing, then that means that they are heading in the opposite direction, away from you. If you want to make sure that it's him looking to make sure that you're always in reach, here are some important things for you to understand about the male of the species:
• Always give him a little bit less than what he's giving you. If he calls or texts, make sure you're calling about one time to every two calls of his, and if he's being enthusiastic about the relationship, then you be enthusiastic right back - just not quite to the degree that he is. It sounds manipulative (and let's face it, it is) but you need to hold back so that he is presented with a bit of a challenge.
Guys are natural hunters!
• Don't stop seeing other people! The ability to date other guys may not be what you're really interested in, but it serves two purposes: first, it protects you in case he decides that he wants out of the picture, and second, it sends him a pretty clear message that if he wants to spend time with you and have you spend time only with him, then he has to make some kind of commitment.
• Don't overprovide for him. There is no reason for you to pay for meals, cook him dinners or buy him gifts. It is a way of trying to take care of him, and you need to keep yourself from doing it. There is nothing that makes a guy in a new relationship feel more smothered than a girl who spends tons of money and attention on them. Let the relationship develop into something real - and by holding yourself back, that's a lot more likely to happen!
So, do you shower him with gifts, call him constantly, do nothing but praise him and offer to cook and clean and do his laundry for him, all in a big play to make yourself indispensable? Only if the role you're looking for is "Mom".
Guys don't care for girls that chase after them - in fact, if you're chasing, then that means that they are heading in the opposite direction, away from you. If you want to make sure that it's him looking to make sure that you're always in reach, here are some important things for you to understand about the male of the species:
• Always give him a little bit less than what he's giving you. If he calls or texts, make sure you're calling about one time to every two calls of his, and if he's being enthusiastic about the relationship, then you be enthusiastic right back - just not quite to the degree that he is. It sounds manipulative (and let's face it, it is) but you need to hold back so that he is presented with a bit of a challenge.
Guys are natural hunters!
• Don't stop seeing other people! The ability to date other guys may not be what you're really interested in, but it serves two purposes: first, it protects you in case he decides that he wants out of the picture, and second, it sends him a pretty clear message that if he wants to spend time with you and have you spend time only with him, then he has to make some kind of commitment.
• Don't overprovide for him. There is no reason for you to pay for meals, cook him dinners or buy him gifts. It is a way of trying to take care of him, and you need to keep yourself from doing it. There is nothing that makes a guy in a new relationship feel more smothered than a girl who spends tons of money and attention on them. Let the relationship develop into something real - and by holding yourself back, that's a lot more likely to happen!
