The term is usually " What you see is what you get " , except that the doctor and Mr. Olson.Nonagenarian Mr. Olson was walking in the street with a beautiful woman at his side. They were talking , laughing and having a good time when he realized his doctor in the other direction . They stopped without hesitation physician Dr. Olson said, "Mr. Olson , you look chipper ! "
Taking the medical side , Olson said, " Well, Doc , I feel fine. 'm Following your suggestion for a " Hot Mama and be happy! "
The doctor said, " Oh , Mr. Olson , this is not what I said I told you that you have a . " Heart murmur and take care ! "
Not that sometimes what about us humans? Interpret if someone said , do not listen to anything , use " selective listening " to hear what they want to hear, or a combination.In the case of the doctor and Mr. Olson , his " interpretation" or the audience , or " selective hearing " may be the "key" to his optimistic nature and relaxation day was .
How many times , however , when we interpret what someone says ( does not say, does or does not ) a break in our communication ? And so what happens to our sense of belonging? When we say our " story" is always filtered in some way, we have a tendency to stretch or shrink the truth of the situation.
As a child , did you ever play " The Telephone Game " in which the first person starts whispering a prayer to the next person who then passes its version to the person next to you? The mind takes a snapshot of what we were told and made our own interpretation Polaroid observation. and so on.Distribution and a sense of not belonging happens the recipient of the invented story . We feel we are no longer " belong" to the tribe, aka, family, community or organization.
So how can we avoid these failures and subsequent feelings of ostracism loop or villain? The answer lies first in honest communication not rumors. We do not " advance the cause " not to put our own spin on the subject, what we "think " that was said or done.
Another remedy may be to go to the source . If you saw your best friend to engage in conduct contrary to, consider telling them, asking them instead of going to someone else. It is true that a lot of emotional courage. You must choose the right time, the right place and with the right attitude to see his friend. Is not it better than what your mind involving other serving as drama addiction?
In the case of the doctor and Mr. Olson, it was an error with the innocent age . Mr. Olson has not heard what the doctor said and interpreted accordingly. It is a light story that can be applied to situations in our lives that can go as light seriously.Now make a plan that you thought you saw or heard you do not put your own spin or " story" about something and , if necessary , ask others for not being part of it as well .
The holidays are here . Each conversation will not be "light" . Thus, when the ramps "Uncle Henry" the volume when you speak, know what your exit strategy is before . If you receive an email that you do not know how to respond to remember that technology can be used as a tool or weapon. When you go to press " Send " on this e- mail , think twice if you want to be the receiver of information.
Finally , the release of the expectations and results can go a long way. If you do not expect the conflict in your life right now , it probably will not attract .Happy holidays to you and yours !Fearing that the conversation with your in-laws ? I do not know how to handle family conversations ? I do not know how to answer personal questions ?
Taking the medical side , Olson said, " Well, Doc , I feel fine. 'm Following your suggestion for a " Hot Mama and be happy! "
The doctor said, " Oh , Mr. Olson , this is not what I said I told you that you have a . " Heart murmur and take care ! "
Not that sometimes what about us humans? Interpret if someone said , do not listen to anything , use " selective listening " to hear what they want to hear, or a combination.In the case of the doctor and Mr. Olson , his " interpretation" or the audience , or " selective hearing " may be the "key" to his optimistic nature and relaxation day was .
How many times , however , when we interpret what someone says ( does not say, does or does not ) a break in our communication ? And so what happens to our sense of belonging? When we say our " story" is always filtered in some way, we have a tendency to stretch or shrink the truth of the situation.
As a child , did you ever play " The Telephone Game " in which the first person starts whispering a prayer to the next person who then passes its version to the person next to you? The mind takes a snapshot of what we were told and made our own interpretation Polaroid observation. and so on.Distribution and a sense of not belonging happens the recipient of the invented story . We feel we are no longer " belong" to the tribe, aka, family, community or organization.
So how can we avoid these failures and subsequent feelings of ostracism loop or villain? The answer lies first in honest communication not rumors. We do not " advance the cause " not to put our own spin on the subject, what we "think " that was said or done.
Another remedy may be to go to the source . If you saw your best friend to engage in conduct contrary to, consider telling them, asking them instead of going to someone else. It is true that a lot of emotional courage. You must choose the right time, the right place and with the right attitude to see his friend. Is not it better than what your mind involving other serving as drama addiction?
In the case of the doctor and Mr. Olson, it was an error with the innocent age . Mr. Olson has not heard what the doctor said and interpreted accordingly. It is a light story that can be applied to situations in our lives that can go as light seriously.Now make a plan that you thought you saw or heard you do not put your own spin or " story" about something and , if necessary , ask others for not being part of it as well .
The holidays are here . Each conversation will not be "light" . Thus, when the ramps "Uncle Henry" the volume when you speak, know what your exit strategy is before . If you receive an email that you do not know how to respond to remember that technology can be used as a tool or weapon. When you go to press " Send " on this e- mail , think twice if you want to be the receiver of information.
Finally , the release of the expectations and results can go a long way. If you do not expect the conflict in your life right now , it probably will not attract .Happy holidays to you and yours !Fearing that the conversation with your in-laws ? I do not know how to handle family conversations ? I do not know how to answer personal questions ?
