Are the holidays again, and already know what that means ! A
lot of energy spent trying to make the season special with the perfect
gifts , the most beautiful ornaments , a sumptuous feast , and family
celebrations for all generations . And the problem . Meet with our families often encourages more friction than frivolity , despite the best intentions.
Often this is due to alterations in the delicate dynamic between grandparents, their adult children and grandchildren .Many of us dream of grandparents for that special holiday traditions with our grandchildren and feel a real part of all during this special season, only to find that our adult children and their spouses have very different ideas about how the holidays should be place .
Often this is due to alterations in the delicate dynamic between grandparents, their adult children and grandchildren .Many of us dream of grandparents for that special holiday traditions with our grandchildren and feel a real part of all during this special season, only to find that our adult children and their spouses have very different ideas about how the holidays should be place .
And often, these ideas do not take our thoughts , dreams , fantasies into account at all. Or
maybe not even allow ourselves to imagine not having a holiday stamp
because we feel that we are relegated to sitting on the bench. This is your holiday , we thought to ourselves, a feeling of sadness. Had when our children were young , and now it's your turn .
But the truth is that there have to be a modern miracle - day for three generations have a happy holiday together.As grandparents , we have a different approach to what we did when we raise our children . We now have the opportunity to act in a way that parents can not because ... Well, since they are "parents" . I remember holidays when my son was little.
But the truth is that there have to be a modern miracle - day for three generations have a happy holiday together.As grandparents , we have a different approach to what we did when we raise our children . We now have the opportunity to act in a way that parents can not because ... Well, since they are "parents" . I remember holidays when my son was little.
Between
working full-time care for , buying gifts ( not to mention wrap and
hide them), home decorating , baking Christmas cookies , and keep up
with what is normally needs a home , I was exhausted .
No wonder ! Although I wanted to give my son the kind of memories that I could hold on to throughout his childhood, he was not able to be fully present with him " in the moment" .But now , freed from the heavier aspects of parenting , grandparents get to relax and have fun, create memories and enjoy being someone special in the lives of our grandchildren. We are in a wonderful way to give it a place that could do when our children were small . But because we are the grandparents and not parents, it is important that we respect the guidelines and traditions that our adult children and their spouses are established. After all, we want to be a welcome addition to their traditions , not a source of frustration!
So with that in mind , here are some tips to help you and your family have the largest ever held:Make sure you are clear about what the rules of gift-giving to their grandchildren. Ask your parents what they want and do not want their kids in the kind of gifts you give , how much you spend , how gifts are distributed , and so on.
No wonder ! Although I wanted to give my son the kind of memories that I could hold on to throughout his childhood, he was not able to be fully present with him " in the moment" .But now , freed from the heavier aspects of parenting , grandparents get to relax and have fun, create memories and enjoy being someone special in the lives of our grandchildren. We are in a wonderful way to give it a place that could do when our children were small . But because we are the grandparents and not parents, it is important that we respect the guidelines and traditions that our adult children and their spouses are established. After all, we want to be a welcome addition to their traditions , not a source of frustration!
So with that in mind , here are some tips to help you and your family have the largest ever held:Make sure you are clear about what the rules of gift-giving to their grandchildren. Ask your parents what they want and do not want their kids in the kind of gifts you give , how much you spend , how gifts are distributed , and so on.
Strive to learn as much as you can in advance what will happen when and where. Do not make assumptions , because what happened last year may have no impact on the plans for this year. Ask for clarification , explaining that you want to be sure you understand how the celebrations will take place and where they stand on .
Do not take anything too personally . The holidays are stressful for everyone, including their adult children. As parents and children try to please everyone, have a little compassion . If you want to create some of your own holiday traditions with their grandchildren , which is not intended as an insult.
Plan some activities to do with your grandchildren do not include donations. The best memories of your vacation to your grandchildren never be what gifts you bought . They will be on all the fun things you did with them and the time they spend together .
Come up with a family tradition that is right for you and your grandchildren . Create something that not only agree, but we also expect every year. You can decorate cookies together , decorate the tree , sing songs around the piano, around the neighborhood to see all the Christmas lights shows , attends a special holiday show , or even volunteer to help fill gift baskets for the needy .
Note that you do not have to do all the traditions of each year. Remain flexible is the key to a big family party . Each year , ask your grandchildren what holiday activities they want to do with you. They name some of the things you've done them before, you know that you are building traditions they will appreciate and remember. But if they come with completely new and different to what they want to do with you ideas, is always great, and they feel like they have a real hand in creating special holiday memories . Anyway, this is a win -win -win for all three generations
