Almost all the trees of the family has a few nuts . Usually large family gatherings are when they shake loose causing havoc and hurt feelings. The
prickliest parents are those who are self-centered , pessimistic,
domineering, critical , impatient, angry or all of the above . These features resemble anyone you know ? Or someone who does not want to know?
Nobody wants to get stuck in difficult or hostile conversations during the season of brotherly love. More is not present or overeating at a dessert bar , these are good strategies to keep the memorable events and strengthen family ties ?
First rule : Nothing is personal. If you walk down the street and a person with a mental disability unconscious shouted something offensive to you , would it hurt your feelings ? Would you take it personally ?
I asked this question to many customers and all said, " No, it would not hurt my feelings I realize that the man in the street has been deactivated and their opinion would not mind. . " Same logic applies to a parent who did comment awkward in their favorite holiday sweater. It is quite possible that the report stubborn social disability. Do not take it personally , smile and move on.
Second rule : Talk about the concepts that you agree to place the details of the disagreement. For example, if you are conservative and aunt Sadie was said . " Tea Party ruining our country, we must re elect a Democrat in the next election " would be silly to pretend or not the Tea Party ruining the country or revise its instead of saying frontrunner . " Yes , it would be good for people to become informed and involved in the upcoming elections . " Education and citizen participation is an area where you agree . Choose to speak on areas of agreement rather than sampling the details of disagreement.
Third rule : Plan to listen more than you talk . Dale Carnegie in his classic book , How to Win Friends and Influence People , he said, "You can make more friends in two months by interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. " If you show a genuine interest in their parents , it is surprising how easily conversations develop. You can show others that you care by asking questions , making sincere praise and listen without interrupting.Fourth rule : have an exit strategy .
Drive yourself to the party or gathering so that you are in control of the duration of stay. Holding car keys in your hands to create a change in mentality . You are not trapped by a long history of Uncle Fred victim chooses to participate . You make a memory with an old man who can not be there next Christmas.
Nobody wants to get stuck in difficult or hostile conversations during the season of brotherly love. More is not present or overeating at a dessert bar , these are good strategies to keep the memorable events and strengthen family ties ?
First rule : Nothing is personal. If you walk down the street and a person with a mental disability unconscious shouted something offensive to you , would it hurt your feelings ? Would you take it personally ?
I asked this question to many customers and all said, " No, it would not hurt my feelings I realize that the man in the street has been deactivated and their opinion would not mind. . " Same logic applies to a parent who did comment awkward in their favorite holiday sweater. It is quite possible that the report stubborn social disability. Do not take it personally , smile and move on.
Second rule : Talk about the concepts that you agree to place the details of the disagreement. For example, if you are conservative and aunt Sadie was said . " Tea Party ruining our country, we must re elect a Democrat in the next election " would be silly to pretend or not the Tea Party ruining the country or revise its instead of saying frontrunner . " Yes , it would be good for people to become informed and involved in the upcoming elections . " Education and citizen participation is an area where you agree . Choose to speak on areas of agreement rather than sampling the details of disagreement.
Third rule : Plan to listen more than you talk . Dale Carnegie in his classic book , How to Win Friends and Influence People , he said, "You can make more friends in two months by interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. " If you show a genuine interest in their parents , it is surprising how easily conversations develop. You can show others that you care by asking questions , making sincere praise and listen without interrupting.Fourth rule : have an exit strategy .
Drive yourself to the party or gathering so that you are in control of the duration of stay. Holding car keys in your hands to create a change in mentality . You are not trapped by a long history of Uncle Fred victim chooses to participate . You make a memory with an old man who can not be there next Christmas.
